459: Not Every Conflict With Your Child Is Defiance (Sometimes, It’s Just Personality)

Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs - A podcast by Karen Stubbs - Tuesdays

From preschool power struggles to teenage arguments, this episode is full of real mom moments. Today, Karen’s answering your questions on sibling conflict, possessiveness, and strong-willed kids. Whether it’s a four year old not wanting to share, or a teenager pushing against boundaries, Karen reminds us that parenting isn’t about controlling every outcome—it’s about cultivating character, modeling grace, and being a steady presence as kids grow and learn.

Episode Recap:

  • 5:24- How do I help my child get over her excessive possessiveness? 
  • 9:50 - Should I get involved over the messiness of my daughters’ room? 
  • 12:18- My teens’ argumentativeness ruins the mood of our entire family, help! 
  • 17:55- How can I help cultivate a close relationship between siblings? 


Scripture for Reflection: Ephesians 4:2 (NIV)
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”

Questions for Discussion:

  1. Have you ever struggled with a child being overly possessive or anxious about their belongings? What has helped (or what would you try based on this episode)?
  2. How do you handle arguments with your strong-willed children, especially when they push back against authority? Is what you’re doing working? 
  3. What’s one way you’ve helped your kids build or maintain a strong sibling bond?
  4. How do you balance honoring your child’s temperament with helping them grow in areas like generosity, respect, and submission?
  5. Which part of Karen’s advice in this episode resonated most with you today—and why?


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